Salon has a review of the Maternal Desire: On Children Love and the Inner Life by psychologist Daphne de Marneffe. Here is a quote that is part of the tease to read the whole thing (for which you must either subscribe or watch an ad):
De Marneffe’s book is singular in that it isn’t polarizing. While she took about five years off from her therapy practice to raise her three children, and a chunk of her book is devoted to discussing the authentic, oft-ignored pleasures of primary caretaking, she doesn’t order her working-mother readers to go home and enjoy it, like she did. Rather, in a discussion that is part sophisticated self-help and part scholarly analysis of our culture’s attitudes toward mothers, de Marneffe urges each woman to think hard about how much time she wants to spend caring for her children vs. working, about whether she’s struck anything close to the right balance in her life.
Here is Jessa Crispin’s reaction:
F@#k Daphne de Marneffe and her new book Maternal Desire: On Children, Love, and the Inner Life.
Did I miss something here? Given my gender this is dangerous ground I know, but is suggesting that perhaps motherhood is central to womanhood to be met with angry denuciation even if the person raising the isssue is a thoughtful feminist (or at least as described by Salon)?